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Allegations
of long-term sexual impropriety against an Indian
guru with a largely Canadian following have rocked
his tranquil ashram.
JOHN STACKHOUSE reports from Kullu,
in the shadow of the Himalayas, that Swami Shyam's
flock has begun to shrink
There is only one god and today
he is presiding over a crowd of Canadians, who
believe they, too, can become god, if only they
shed all they have known.
Most have already left comfortable
homes in places such as Westmount, North Vancouver
and Rosedale and taken vows of celibacy to focus
their energies. Many have walked away from corporate
jobs, academic careers and positions in their
family firms.
Here at the International Meditation
Institute, the very idea of family takes on new
meaning as devotees shed their family names --
names such as Mulroney, Rosenberg and Reitman
-- for a new Sanskrit identity.
It is all meant to bring one closer
to the eternal state of pure-bliss-consciousness,
Swami Shyam explains to the 70 people who have
gathered in the open-air theatre of his ashram,
or religious retreat, for the daily satsang, or
teaching.
"In whose hands is your birth? In
whose hands is your death?" he asks. "In whose
hands does your river flow?"
The people in the crowd nod appreciatively
and return the smile of their white-bearded guru
as he proceeds to chisel away at their upbringing.
They are prisoners of materialism and ambition,
and of carnal desires. But most of all, they are
prisoners of their minds. The mind creates dreams,
he explains. And dreams destroy.
"Mind is the dreamer, friends,"
Swami Shyam says. "And if you think you will find
a true friend in the world who will be truthful,
you will have no friend on Earth."
Some of the devotees shift uncomfortably
under their fleece blankets, for today's message
is more than the swami's usual lessons of eternal
bliss. Today's message hints at the more fleeting
troubles of sex, money and scandal, and how they
are tearing his following apart.
Over the past two years, Swami Shyam's
largely Canadian following based in the mountain
town of Kullu has dwindled amid accusations that
the supposedly celibate guru has been engaged
sexually for decades with his most attractive
female devotees, and that some of his disciples
in Canada used meditation centres in Montreal,
Ottawa and Winnipeg to lure young women into a
form of sexual devotion.
Swami Shyam strongly denied the
accusations, but five women now living in North
America and Europe have given detailed accounts
of what they allege were long-running affairs
with the man.
Those who have left the ashram believe
that the swami has broken one of the main principles
of their meditation movement -- that celibacy,
in an ancient Hindu ascetic tradition, is essential
to channeling bodily energy to a spiritual quest.
They also believe that the guru
abused his authority over many followers and neglected
others, including a group of Canadian youths who
grew up at the ashram and were involved in drug
abuse.
"There was a group-think, 100 per
cent, and it's still going on," said a businesswoman
and former devotee who says she had sex with the
swami a number of times. She said she is more
concerned about the ashram's devotional culture.
"The problem since time immemorial is that we
continually search for a deity in human form that
we can look up to so that we don't have to take
responsibility for ourselves. My greatest lesson
from Kullu was that no one knows what is better
for me than myself. In Kullu, everyone has given
up that right."
At first glance, the ashram appears
to be the ideal blend of East and West, with so
much to comfort the body and soul that devotees
have come to joke about their meditation centre
as "Club Med."
It is located on a congested road
that may have been bucolic 30 years ago but today
carries the cacophony and diesel clouds of urban
sprawl. On either side are grocers, Internet cafés
and shawl merchants catering to the steady flow
of Indian travelers who come to vacation in the
area, called the Valley of the Gods for its proximity
to the white-capped Himalayas.
Of course, the region is equally
famous for its ready supply of hashish and marijuana,
but those are influences the gated ashram has
long tried to keep out.
On a landing built above the road
and overlooking the raging Beas River, the devotees
gather for their daily lesson. Afterward, a lucky
few will be invited to attend a private meditation
session with the swami or to join him for his
afternoon tea.
The rest retire to long mountain
hikes or a tennis match, and later to dinner parties
in their renovated chalets, set amid orchards
on the mountainside.
Some devotees have managed to bring
their professions with them, using Kullu as a
base for freelance writing, art design, filmmaking
and, in one man's case, legal advice. A few have
written books about meditation, adding to the
institute's claim that it is a centre of higher
learning, not just a retreat.
Blending spiritual quests with material
needs has long been a tradition in India's ashrams,
which are found in every corner of the country,
wherever a self-styled guru can assemble some
disciples. In the 1960s, the Beatles sought enlightenment
at an ashram in the northern town of Rishikesh,
under the guidance of Maharishi Mahesh Yogi.
But sex scandals have become common
as well, despite an ancient Hindu custom that
calls for chastity among religious students and
their teachers.
In 1980, Bhagwan Rajneesh, a guru
with a penchant for Rolls-Royces and beautiful
young women, moved his flock from India to Oregon.
He wound up being convicted of immigration fraud
and deported back to India, where he died in 1990.
More recently, a politically influential
god-man, Sai Baba, has been accused of sexually
abusing several European followers.
But no guru has won more Canadian
admirers than has Swami Shyam, himself a former
follower of the Beatles' Maharishi.
The swami's curious affair with
Canada dates back to the early 1970s, when the
former Indian public servant -- his full name
is Shyam Srivastava -- visited Vancouver as a
member of the Transcendental Meditation movement.
There, he gathered his first followers,
largely well-off youths who were riding the tail
end of the hippie movement. One was Scott Stirling,
whose father, Geoff, the Newfoundland media magnate,
was so impressed with the swami that he gave him
a late-night spot on his Montreal station, CHOM-FM.
Soon, the swami had enough followers
to return to India and build his own ashram, where
he taught the young Canadians to shed their material-driven
identities for a pursuit of enlightenment, the
eternal state that he claimed he achieved in childhood.
He placed particular emphasis on the concept of
"oneness," that all people are one with god and
the universe -- in short, that we all are god.
The pitch has enabled the swami
to assemble among his followers Barbara Mulroney,
the sister of former prime minister Brian Mulroney;
the retail-chain heiress Ellen Reitman; Ellen
Rosenberg, daughter of a wealthy retired Ontario
judge; and two sons of retired general and Second
World War hero Sydney Radley-Walters.
Many of the swami's devotees said
they did not know of the sexual allegations until
recently, and still do not believe them. Yet in
almost every case, the guru has gained an extraordinary
influence over their lives.
"I think I was just very naive,"
said Ann Craig, a former devotee who asked that
her maiden name be used. She said she was so impressed
by the swami that she did not think to question
him when, she alleges, he invited her to his bedroom
while staying in her home during a trip to the
West in 1981. She was 41. He was 58.
"I was flattered," Ms. Craig said
of her alleged first sexual encounter with the
swami. "Very stupidly, I thought maybe I was unique.
I was very surprised. I remember I was pretty
overwhelmed. He just asked me to lock the door.
It didn't seem odd. It was happening. I just accepted
it, that it was an amazing happening."
She then visited the swami at his
Kullu ashram and returned every year until 1985,
when the alleged sexual liaisons stopped. "Every
time I went to India, it would always happen at
least once," she said. "I can honestly say this
is somebody I loved."
Other women said they, too, fell
in love with their spiritual guide and saw his
alleged sexual advances as part of their development.
But like Ms. Craig, the women interviewed said
they eventually discovered that they were not
the only ones.
"I never understood why it needed
to go that way," Ms. Craig said of the alleged
sexual encounters. "I once asked him and he said
something about divine will, that he was a puppet
at the end of the string. That was the only explanation
that he gave.
"But he insisted it be kept secret.
He said he would be crucified if the others found
out, that it would never be understood." Although
she continued to return to the ashram until 1998,
she did not reveal her alleged affair to anyone,
especially not to her two teenaged children, who
had gone with her to Kullu and stayed until 1999,
living off a $110,000 trust fund from their father.
(A third child did not go to India.)
Only last summer did Ms. Craig's
daughter, now 34, tell her that she also had had
an affair with the swami, starting around the
same time as her own ended.
"I saw him as god, so did all the
people around me," Ms. Craig's daughter, who asked
not to be identified, said in a letter to other
former devotees. "It was a belief stronger than
any in my life. I somehow by some outrageous serendipity
had stumbled upon Jesus here in 20th-century India
and I would do anything for him because he was
the guardian of my soul, the one being in this
fragmented universe who would be for my life and
evolution."
Other women who say they have had
sex with the guru said it never appeared seductive,
that it was most often part of a meditation session
in which he would request one of the devotees
massage him.
"I believed him to be greater than
a human being, that he couldn't possibly be subjected
to human desires," said the businesswoman, who
asked not to be named.
"There was no indication that he
was a typical man, a Western man. He didn't handle
it like a normal Western relationship. There was
no seduction or courtship or attention made in
normal ways that we're used to. I was able to
say, 'Oh, he's not a normal human male, he's a
sort of deity. And whatever he does is always
for my evolution. He's making me one with him
and his consciousness and awareness.' "
A Montreal women, who similarly
asked that her identity not be revealed, said
sexual contact began on her second visit to Kullu,
when the swami invited her to his private room
at night and asked her to remove her underwear
and lift her skirt.
"It was often a quickie," she said.
"He told you that he was purifying you, so you
thought that this was the purpose of the sexual
intercourse. He constantly created in us a sense
of awe toward himself. For me, it was always the
impression like he was having a cup of tea, he
appeared to remain emotionally uninvolved, and
then he would go back to reading his book or to
some other activity."
Esme Hendrick-Wong, a Toronto textile
merchant now based in Singapore, said she came
to believe that it went much further than private
sexual encounters.
Although the swami never approached
her for sex, she said, she walked into a meditation
session in the late 1980s and saw him rubbing
his feet on one of her friend's exposed breasts.
At least 20 other women were in the room, she
said.
"From my conversation with her [the
friend], she thought this was great," Ms. Hendrick-Wong
said. "In private, it was open knowledge that
he got massages, but I believe everybody should
have massages. It's therapeutic. In no way did
I think the massages were sexual."
How the swami gained such mental
power over his devotees -- most of them well educated,
financially comfortable and free from any sort
of substance abuse -- is a matter of interpretation.
Some women say they were attracted
to him, to his soft eyes, gentle humour and white
beard that flows like a mountain glacier across
his chest. Some say he manipulated them, pampering
them with favours one day and then belittling
them the next, especially at the satsang,where
devotees take turns on a "hot seat" on stage next
to the guru, who questions their spiritual thinking
in front of the others.
Many also say they found comfort
in him, an escape from troubled childhoods or
marriages, or a lifetime of neglect. "If you have
to put one thing in common with all of us, we
all came from an unhappy family life," the businesswoman
said. But there was more, she continued. "I watched
him. I scrutinized him for three years before
I was convinced of who I thought he was. He never
seemed to falter. He really seemed to have something
most people did not have. I had come to an understanding
that he was greater than man, that he was god
on Earth."
In every part of the ashram and
every chalet, the swami's portrait can be seen
on walls and mantels, next to espresso makers,
even on bedside tables where a loved one's picture
might be more appropriate. Some followers carry
his picture in lockets. One woman boasted of writing
a cheque to him for $25,000 because she loved
him so.
On a chilly morning, the devotees
sit around kerosene heaters, some bundled in Lands'
End designer wear, awaiting the swami's entrance.
A video crew gets ready to record his every word,
which will be meticulously catalogued in the ashram's
library of his thoughts. Several followers also
prepare to take notes during his teaching, to
review at night.
In the front row sit his wife and
five grown children, perhaps a sign of family
solidarity since he has not shared a house with
them in nearly 20 years. Swami Shyam originally
agreed to an interview on the condition that specific
questions about the sexual allegations not be
asked. Then, when the date of the interview was
changed, he cancelled and wrote an angry e-mail.
"I, being the lover of the universe,
am supposed to love all," he wrote. "But I have
my own bathroom and have not to put my pee-stick
into the pee-pots of women or try to abuse a minor
who has been involved in experimenting in all
that which young people are taught to do by certain
members of their own group, where they are experimenting
and smoking hash constantly."
He wrote that he would never reveal
the names of drug abusers, but felt that they
were making him the target of a smear campaign.
"Sex is something that nobody sees, thus anyone
without seeing anything can say, just by hearing
something from someone," he wrote. "You also fall
in this category. You have not seen me abusing
anyone who just wanted to see what this sex is.
Do you not know what sex is? I have five children
and know what sex is. And who are the people who
have produced children by me? Only my wife."
He signed the electronic letter:
"With lots of love and appreciation for your half-intelligence,
Swami Shyam."
At satsang,the swami emerges on
stage, hands folded politely toward the audience
as he approaches a throne-like chair positioned
in front of a black circle on a wall, an object
that is meant to focus the mind in meditation.
He smiles and bows his head to familiar faces,
and greets newcomers like a teacher on the first
day of school.
Then, once a devotee has placed
a cup of steaming tea at his side, he begins to
talk. Without notes or interruption, he will speak
for more than an hour about the idea of dreams
and dreamers, weaving together musings on the
earthquake in Gujarat state, the big Hindu festival
known as the Kumbh Mela, and Bill Clinton's departure
from the White House.
While meditation may be the swami's
secret to life, he also apparently watches a lot
of CNN.
The crowd laps up his every word
-- one moment gasping at his deep thoughts, the
next laughing at his jokes. There is no sign of
dissent, except for the dwindling numbers. Where
200 or more people once vied for a seat close
to the stage, there are now one-third that many,
and several are people who have been here since
the 1970s. It is hard to imagine where else they
would go.
The schism is something the swami
seems only willing to discuss in parables, today
in the story of his own dream. In the dream, he
says, invaders bent on destroying his following
are about to storm the ashram. Although they bear
arms, he tells the devotees to allow them to come,
to breach the gates -- and then to smash their
heads with rocks. The invaders are too close to
fire, he explains, comparing the ensuing carnage
to Pol Pot's Cambodian genocide in the 1970s.
This sudden burst of violent metaphor
from the preacher of pure-bliss-consciousness
seems to startle the crowd, but there is an explanation.
The real danger, the swami says, is human ego,
which of course must be transcended if one is
to reach bliss.
Dan Chernin, who acts as general
manager for the ashram, later plays down the dream
sequence, saying he did not interpret it as a
metaphor for war within the following.
He prefers to attribute the dissent
to "a few bad apples," most notably a group of
younger Canadian devotees who grew up in Kullu
and became heavily involved in the local drug
scene.
"The rift may be a rift, but the
environment at least has been purified, in that
the drug situation is gone," Mr. Chernin said.
He believes that some of the sexual
allegations were concocted by the same group.
"We don't stand for that," he said.
"We're working on a level of evolution that happiness
comes from oneself, that one's nature is immortal.
. . . Our way is not looking for gratification
through the senses."
The son of a wealthy Cape Breton
developer, Mr. Chernin was among the first to
latch on to Swami Shyam when after university
he travelled to Vancouver with Scott Stirling,
who was a friend. Mr. Chernin was also with the
first group to join the swami in Chandigarh, the
Punjab state capital, where the guru lived, and
then in Kullu, where they built the ashram.
By the 1980s, the ashram had grown
from a collection of a few dozen rich kids to
a large following of middle-aged professionals
who increasingly wanted to escape the West's rat
race.
But some families also started to
grow worried about relatives there and alerted
Indian officials in the hope of getting them to
leave.
Hume Wright, a prominent diplomat
in the 1960s, visited the ashram to try to persuade
his daughter, Sheila, to come home. The woman
was raising her young daughter at the ashram,
where like other children there she was home-taught
by various devotees.
According to Mr. Wright's son, Blake,
who lives in Nova Scotia, the retired diplomat
liked Swami Shyam, but at one point shouted at
him for keeping his daughter and granddaughter
in Kullu, and then returned to Canada alone. The
elderly man, who was terminally ill, eventually
committed suicide outside Ottawa.
"Obviously, his [Swami Shyam's]
power to attract people and keep them was far
beyond anything we could have imagined," said
Blake Wright, who filed a complaint with the Indian
High Commission in London but received no reply.
Another West Coast devotee, whose
son grew up in the ashram and then tried to commit
suicide after the family left, said he realized
only after returning to Canada the psychological
control the swami has over his followers. "The
man had a power to show me spaces I had never
seen before, not on drugs or anything. . . . I
was in love with him, like a schoolgirl."
As the guru's following grew, devotees
were allowed to return to the West and open meditation
centres as a way of spreading his techniques,
and to bring new recruits to Kullu.
After opening one such meditation
centre in Montreal, Jean Bouchart D'Orval, a former
Hydro-Québec engineer, said he discovered the
power he could exert over his own students, whom
he was soon seducing.
"The moment you set up and start
speaking you have a special connection. You have
a special air," he said. "People project their
own energy, their own greatness, on the one who's
sitting in front of them. This energy is impersonal,
but it's the easiest thing in the world to take
it personally and to follow up with personal relationships.
. . . I don't know how many people I would have
been involved with, because with many of them
I was only flirtatious."
In 1993, after two women wrote to
Swami Shyam to complain about Mr. D'Orval's behaviour,
the guru reprimanded him during a visit. "He said
these are things animals do. He referred specifically
to bulls and bears, that this is what they did.
He said I should save my energy. That was one
of his favourite lines he gave to men."
Mr. D'Orval was allowed to continue
to teach meditation. Some of the women who stayed
in Kullu said they felt they could not leave,
even as they heard more rumours about what had
gone on in the swami's private room.
For those who thought of returning
to Canada, the Montreal woman said, "he creates
the illusion that you're failing, like you're
going to hell and that you've been to heaven."
Although she said she was first
involved sexually with the swami in the early
1980s, she stayed off and on until 1998, feeling
at times like a psychological prisoner. "At times,
I hated myself. I hated life."
In 1994, she was suicidal. One night,
she sealed her chalet's windows, took a handful
of Tylenol and went to turn on her gas stove.
But she stopped herself, not for fear of death,
she said. She was afraid her suicide would malign
the ashram.
"I thought and was made to believe
that such actions would make me incur the worst
karma that one could incur and I would carry it
from incarnation to incarnation," she explained.
"Like a lot of women there, I needed attention,
I needed love, I needed help."
Rumours continued, but in the spring
of 1998, two separate events shook the community.
First was the revelation that one of the original
members, acting as an investment adviser to other
devotees, had lost $4-million of their money through
speculative investments.
The ashram responded by charging
a daily fee for satsang, in the hope of raising
funds for some of the victims. But instead the
levy created a new sense of division between wealthy
devotees and those who came to Kullu only with
enough to live on.
Then came a suggestion that devotees
should not talk publicly about the bizarre drowning
of a young Montreal woman in the nearby Beas River.
The woman had been travelling in India and stopped
to visit a family friend at the ashram.
"Someone said swami told everyone
not to speak of this," Ms. Hendrick-Wong said.
"That smacked of total control. Something definitely
had changed there." Local authorities did not
link her drowning to the ashram -- a tragic number
of young Westerners die, often from drug abuse,
in the area -- and the Canadian High Commission
later wrote a letter of thanks to Mr. Chernin
for his work in getting the woman's body to New
Delhi so that it could be returned to her family
in Montreal.
For all that has happened at the
ashram, many of the dissidents continue to respect
Swami Shyam's powers. Ms. Hendrick-Wong considers
him "psychic." Warren Taffel, a retired landscape
designer in London who once led the swami's British
wing but is no longer a follower, said he still
thinks that the man "has a line to supreme knowledge."
"I had never found myself in the
presence of a man who knew answers, and to a great
extent I haven't changed that view," said Mr.
Taffel, who has left behind a rented house full
of possessions in Kullu.
Ms. Craig disagrees, as she watches
two of her children, now in their 30s, and many
of their friends struggling to rebuild their lives
in the West. One young woman she knows in British
Columbia is on antidepressant medication. Another
young woman, who has relocated to the southern
United States with her parents, still struggles
with North American life, complaining of nightmares
from her Kullu experiences and often unable to
attend classes at college.
The swami's faithful deputies believe
that in each case the parents are to blame. After
all, they were the ones who chose to raise their
children in a small Himalayan town, to keep them
out of school and to ignore the fact that cheap
drugs were easily obtained, before dropping them
into North American society as young adults.
Some of the parents admit that perhaps
they were naive. "In a way, it was the end of
a dream because I actually thought that my children
would be safe, that they would follow their souls.
We all did," Ms. Craig said.
Back in Kullu, the few score people
who stand behind Swami Shyam see light beyond
the darkness of a community that has, in a way,
turned on itself. Those who remain believe that
they can now return to their original pursuit
of enlightenment, unencumbered by charlatans and
passers-by who at the height of the ashram's popularity
may have diluted its strength.
"We're still driving on the road
to Nirvana," said Stephen Aitkin, 47, a technical
artist from Ottawa who divides his time in Kullu
between meditation and serving clients through
the Internet.
As satsang floats into its second
hour, the guru of pure-bliss-consciousness remains
seated cross-legged in his chair, working busily
through a string of prayer beads as he weaves
deftly from humour to insight, from CNN to Freud,
carrying his enraptured audience with him.
One gets the impression that he
could talk like this for days and no one would
leave, but eventually, with lunch time nearing,
the guru begins to sum up his thoughts on the
deceit of dreaming. He offers his own denunciation,
perhaps a code for the invaders rattling his gates.
"Peace is not in wine or whisky.
Peace is not in smoke," he says before softening
his voice to a whisper.
"Peace is in your life, eternal,
unmoved. That is god. That I am." And with that,
he is gone.
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